A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning: Donne's way of argument for his pure love with metaphysical conceits
‘A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning’ is one of the
most romantic poems written by John Donne. This is a personal poem showing the
pure love and devotion of the poet to his beloved. Critics feel that the poem
is addressed to his wife Anne More. The poet is about to leave in the end of
1611 for a short visit to France but this absence of a few weeks may not be
taken as an occasion of separation and lamentation. The poet’s wife was not in
a good health. But the poet shows the nature of unique and true love which can
stand separation on account of mutual confidence and affection by applying
metaphysical conceits. His arguments seem to be very impressive.
The poet argues to
his beloved to offer her consolation for his short absence. As the virtuous men
are not afraid of death, true lovers, in the same way, are not afraid of
separation. Their loyalty and devotion to each other can only be tested and
enhanced with separation. The poet proposes his beloved to let themselves past
quietly without making any scene. Let themselves resist from shading tears or
heaving sighs. It would be a disgrace to their holy love if they portray it
like the common people.
Men are afraid
of earthquakes and the damage caused by them. However, the movement of the heavenly
bodies, though much greater and more violent, is quiet and harmless. Similarly
ordinary lovers may lament on a separation but their love is so holy and pure
that in spite of separation, they don’t have any feeling of loneliness. The
physical absence does not matter at all to their chaste and refined kind of
love. Physical enjoyment does not govern their love. Here the poet says,
“Dull sublunary lovers'
love
(Whose soul is
sense) cannot admit
Absence, because
it doth remove
Those things
which elemented it.”
The love of lowly worldly people is
based on physical attraction. Ordinary lovers cannot admit breach. They want to
enjoy, through senses, physical love. Breach means break to them for a long
time. To them love means sex and so they cannot stand separation or absence.
This kind of sexual love is unable to accept separation because the elements of
their love are physical like beautiful cheeks and lips. Their feelings, passion,
fascination are removed when they face breach. On the contrary, the poet and
his beloved’s love being holy and pure can stand physical separation.
Their love is so
pure and noble that they themselves do not fully understand its
implications. Being independent of physical attraction, it rests on mutual confidence
and faithfulness. It does not bother about physical separation and consequent
absence of eyes, lips and hands. Here the poet says,
“Our
two souls therefore, which are one,
Though I must
go, endure not yet
A breach, but an
expansion,
Like gold to
airy thinness beat.”
Their souls are one in pure love. If the poet goes
away from his beloved, his wife, it does not mean breach or break of love. It
is rather an extension of love or like the expansion of a piece of gold beaten
to thinness for the sake of production of gold leaf. The poet further argues,
“If
they be two, they are two so
As
stiff twin compasses are two,
Thy
soul the fixed foot, makes no show
To
move, but doth, if the other do.”
Donne compares
their souls by employing a metaphysical conceit of ‘twin compasses’.
Their souls may physically be two but they are united like the two sides of a
compass at a centre. Since the beloved stays at home, she is compared to the
fixed foot of the compass. On the other hand, the poet’s soul is the other foot
of the compass moving around. When one foot moves in a circle, obviously the
other foot also moves in a point – they cannot leave anyone. In the same way, they
are now the two feet of the compass who have met together at the centre of
love. Here the poet includes,
“Thy
firmness makes my circle just,
And
makes me end, where I begun.”
The poet tells his beloved that her firmness will
only strengthen his love. Just as the revolving foot of the compass returns to
the central point after completing the circle, in the same way the poet shall
return to his beloved. Thus, they will again be united for their love being
pure.
Therefore, ‘A Valediction:
Forbidding Mourning’ is such a poem in
which Donne shows how much he loves his wife or beloved. Grienson admired it as
‘tenderest of Donne’s love poems’. In spite of the differences of opinion there
is no doubt that the love mentioned in the poem is pure and the metaphysical
conceits have made the arguments reasonable and appealing.
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